Teenagers sometimes have mood swings brought about by the hormones and the social problems they encounter in every day life. Although sometimes the reasons may not seem enough for a teen to be mad, anger is sometimes a part of the process of growing up. This emotion is experienced by everyone, however, teens may have a harder time due to their hormonal states.
Anger is something that is like the other emotions such as love, sorrow and hate. The trick in managing it, is finding a good way of expressing it. The choice of how we express our rage is what is referred to as anger management. Teenage emotions are volatile and many teens need strategies to help!
There are many things in your everyday life that may trigger your teenager. Examples of things that could make a teen angry are losing a game or a canceled concert. Although it is a natural thing, they still need to learn how to overcome rage and anger it so that they don't do something or say something that they will regret in the future.
The most significant tool in anger management for teens is self-control. Having self-management, will let them react in a beneficial way to the situation.
A teenager may have had times wherein they felt so upset that they did something they later regret. Helping teens to tryexamine things that have happened in the past
and evaluate themselves, thinking about what they would have done differently is essential.
Ask the teenager to think about, if they had controlled their rage, would they have gained more respect from others? What change has that mad feeling brought in them? Was it positive? Negative? Or it did not change them at all?
First, tuning into your feelings is important. Teenagers should know what things make them feel mad and why these things make them feel like that.
The second thing they have to consider is stepping back and thinking when we start to get angry. Controlling ourselves instead of reacting without thinking, taking deep breaths and then evaluating the situation. Thinking about why it had made us angry. Looking for solutions that could help us resolve it, instead of reacting negatively.
The third thing teens should remember is practicing damage control – select the solution that will give them the best benefit but only with least damage. And the last thing that can be considered is to seek help from an elder such as a parent or a counselor.
Make sure teens know they have the choice of whether to react to angry feelings or respond to them. Responding to rage or feeling mad will take lots of practice but it is possible.
Also remember, it is not necessarily bad to have the feelings of being angry. It helps promote change in society where needed. It can stop injustice. When teens are able to express their anger in a constructive way, it can increase their self-respect.