Develop your Social Intelligence
By now it should be no surprise that today's world is vastly different than the one most of us grew up in.
The technology is more advanced, laws are more stringent, and people are now looking at alternate methods of communication when dealing with others. Alternate methods of communication are anything that does not involve talking. The most common type is body language.
Our bodies are always giving off some type of sign or signal, sometimes body language signs give us a more honest view than the ones coming out of the other person's mouth. People can polish their speech, practice their lines, and have the biggest smile on the planet.
All of that may be a facade created by someone. Body language can destroy that carefully built facade. These signs and signals have always been present. However many people are now starting to pay attention to them.
Reading body language can be a good way to size up a potential employee, a prospective suitor, or even a possibly guilty suspect.
Many retail establishments train their employees on how to control certain clusters of body language lest they offend potential customers. Other people claim to be able to attract any member of the opposite sex jut by correctly interpreting certain body language signs.
While it is difficult to substantiate their claim, it is true that being able to interpret body language signs is a useful tool today. The human body is full of telltale clues.
Physical Tips on How to Read Body Language
Here are a few things to think about with body language:
Eyes - There is a common expression that the eyes are a window to the soul. In a sense that is true. Eyes can tell us if the person is interested in what we are saying, or is just plain bored. A person whose eyes are wandering back and forth could signal boredom and disinterest.
They are busy scanning other areas to find something that is interesting to them. If a person is staring intently at you then they are more than likely interested in what you have to say. There is a school of thought that if a person's pupils are dilated, then they are concentrating on what you are saying.
Of course, dilated pupils can also signify drug use. However, the conversation you are having will signify whether or not drugs are in play.
Arms - The arms are a great way of discerning approval. If a person's arms are open, then they are open to what you are telling them. If their arms are folded or closed, then they are on the defensive and may not approve of what you have just said.
Fingers - These extremities are able to create many gestures (not just the one that we see on the road when we are driving). These gestures can convey different emotions.
A pointed finger can signify anger (remember when our fathers used to do it to us as children), while tapping fingers on a table signifies frustration.
Reading body language can be an important way to 'feel out' new people. The key thing to remember is that we are all nervous around new people, so those signs might not mean that this is a nefarious person. Taking the time to get to know someone is the best way to truly learn about someone.