Why Teens Act The Way They Do!
Have you ever heard a question, statement or witnessed an action by your teenager and wonder, 'Where did that come from?' It is not unusual to go from knowing everything about your child to one day feeling like a different person is now living with you. Happily there are reasons for these dramatic and teenage moodiness. There are also ways to cope and help your teenager along one of the most difficult parts of life's journey. So, what does go on in the teenage brain to make them do what they do?
The human brain is fully developed in size by age 5. While the size of the brain changes little after that, its function changes radically. At adolescence, what has been termed a 'hormonal revolution' takes place. A child normally thinks in concrete ways. Things are black or they are white. They accept statements such as 'because I said so..' and so forth. As a child develops so does the way they see things. As a result, the way they think is very different. When looking at a matter, they begin to weigh the underlying issues. Values are questioned and at times authority may seem to be challenged. Why?
A teenager starts to develop conviction when they begin to look more deeply into matters that concern them. Instead of accepting things as they may be, they want to know why. The reasons for things becomes more important. You may notice this when you ask your teen to do a certain thing. They question 'why?' and you insist 'because I said so' and so starts the digression. It may be more beneficial to explain your reasons on certain matters. A teenager is beginning to take on new responsibilities and explore independence. After all, that is what will eventually happen. Now are the early stages of adulthood.
This may come across as rebellious and lead to arguments or a drifting apart. Do not be discouraged. They are looking for a way to make the values you have taught, their own. They are trying to find how everything fits into their own lives. This questioning is actually healthy. You don't want to raise a child to be the kind of adult who just accepts whatever anyone tells them. This would be naive and not beneficial. So help your teenager to reason in a way that helps them. Explain why the things that are important to you are so. Be clear in what you expect from them, but assure them of your support and love.
To start your teenr on the right path to adulthood, they need your guidance. Th way you reason and communicate may need some adjusting. With some patience, understanding yet still be firm and having boundaries, your teenager can thrive. This is a time of development and maturing. Mistakes will be made but in the end your hard work will pay off.