Toddler Emotions - How to Cope
Enhance your Little Ones Emotional Intelligence
Helping your child by naming their feelings at a young age is a great first step. It makes them more open to deep friendship and relationships, plus, allows them to handle their feelings when they get out of control. The negative feelings such as anger, frustrations, and confusion are the hardest for children to understand.
One minute they are this happy-go-lucky little one and the next minute they are a raging bull throwing things around. Toddler's feelings can be unpredictable! Teaching them at a young age how to control the huge feelings gives them control for the rest of their lives. The best time to teach them is when they are learning about emotion, among other things.
Their emotional quotient or emotional IQ can help them cope with their feelings; it also allows them to interact better with other children as they grow. They also grow to be more confident, responsible and become a success not only with interpersonal relationships but with strong emotional relationships, as well. .
Coping with strong emotions
- Listen with empathy and pay close attention to what your child says. Don't tell them how they feel unless they don't have the words yet. Ask them how they feel about the subject. They are little ones, so, you might have to explain to them every time they go through the feelings.
- Put a name to the feelings. Most of the time kids don't know the name of what they are feeling. When they throw a temper tantrum you ask "Why are you angry?" This puts a name to the emotion they are feeling. Sometimes they don't know what they are feeling and it takes time to get it out of them such as disappointment. How does a child explain that to you when they don't yet have the words? How would you describe it?
- It's okay for them to feel emotions. By telling them not to feel that way, they don't have any other way to feel. Validate the feelings by telling them it is okay to feel that way, but here's a better way to handle it or deal with it.
- Let the child's emotions teach them how to deal with other emotions such as fear, hurt, or pain. Telling them a story of how you felt and what you did about it will help them understand how to deal with it next time it happens.
- When your kids go head-to-head you can teach them how to deal with it instead of letting them duke it out. Teaching both children to do other things instead of hitting each other will have them friend again in no time. Plus, the next time it happens, they won't go at each other with fist, they will try your suggestion first.
- Saying, "Because I said so" to your child doesn't give them anywhere to vent their emotions except at you. They never learn to deal with hurt because you said not to feel it, but they will direct their anger at you the next time they get hurt. Teaching your child to be emotional intelligent is not easy, but it will make their lives better in the long run.